Sharing my thoughts about this Love Islander on TikTok, Twitter, Lemon8 even Instagram just wasn’t enough. I had to write about it simply because we all know a HUDA…

This season, no one played the game of manipulation and misdirection better than HUDA. But even the best performances eventually unravel. From manipulating Jeremiah to gaslighting Chris, villainizing Chelley and more. HUDA’s gameplay wasn’t just strategy, it was a masterclass in emotional control. But beneath the surface, her tactics reveal something deeper: how easily public perception can be swayed, and how far someone will go to control the narrative.

HUDA DIDN’T COME HERE FOR LOVE BUT MAYBE EXPOSURE?

Love Island is supposed to be about exploring connections, building relationships, and maybe even finding love. But HUDA locked in on one person and turned that connection into a power play and from that point on, it was GAME ON.

Some people might’ve missed how she treated Jeremiah, but Chris confirmed the pattern. When he didn’t shower her with attention in bed, she literally started counting down, making him feel uncomfortable. If a man had done that to a woman on national television, this show might’ve been canceled, and the internet would’ve mounted his head on the nearest f*cking wall.

I’M AFRAID, YOU’VE BEEN HUDWINKED.

Let’s be real: HUDA used her role as a mother as emotional leverage against Jeremiah. And as a mother myself, I couldn’t understand her reasoning. Why wouldn’t you tell someone you have a child from the beginning? Would you put this kind of pressure on someone on a first date? Let me guess… NO? I didn’t think so. Telling someone from the beginning gives them the option to walk away before things get emotionally complicated without guilt.

Yes, you’re 24 with a child, and that deserves respect. But Jeremiah also deserves the right to decide if he’s ready for that kind of responsibility. Instead of letting the relationship grow naturally, she withheld key information, built an emotional connection under false pretenses, and then dropped it like a test as if he had to prove himself worthy of her truth. This whole “I’m a mom, so I’m protecting my heart” act would hit different if she wasn’t playing emotional chess with half-truths. That’s not protection, it’s strategy. It’s manipulation wrapped in selective vulnerability. She said she wanted a real connection first, but was already taking showers with him, getting physically intimate, creating emotional stakes without giving him the full picture. Talk about NARRATIVE CONTROL.

Jeremiah deserved to read the prologue before being thrown into Chapter 6...

Motherhood isn’t a reason to dodge accountability. It should deepen your sense of clarity, not complicate it. And if you’re not leading with TRANSPARENCY especially as a parent, then what are you really building?

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS

Let’s talk about HUDA and her version of “taking it slow.” She told the other islanders that’s what she wanted with Chris a slow, intentional connection. But behind closed doors, they were already sexually involved. And let’s be honest, even if she called it “barely” sex, sex is sex. After the villa, HUDA explained that she didn’t want PDA with Chris because he had a “wandering eye” and gave cute nicknames to all the other girls. But again they were still open. So why was she trying to control him? Y’all see the pattern? Jeremiah couldn’t kiss other women, she even marked her territory by placing hickies on his neck… then wondered when new bombshells came in the villa no one was interested in him… You can’t tell someone to explore their options, then punish them for actually doing it. That’s not open, that’s manipulative. You either want a connection, or you want control, you can’t have both...

When Chris questioned why she avoided affection in public, her words were: “I did that last time, and I want them to see that we’re taking it slow.” it’s giving IMAGE MANAGEMENT. HUDA wasn’t trying to build something real. She was trying to control how her actions were perceived. She wanted to look like she was doing things differently, while making the same impulsive choices behind the scenes.

And that’s been her pattern all season. Over and over, she’s prioritized physical connection over emotional stability and that’s exactly why every bond she’s tried to build has CRUMBLED. Not because the men weren’t ready.Not because the villa was messy.But because HER FOUNDATION WAS. You can’t brand yourself as intentional while acting on impulse.

PANCAKES ANYONE?

Let’s talk about the pancake moment that started it all... Chris, HUDA’s connection who’s also interested in Chelley brought both women pancakes but presented Chelley’s with more effort topping her pancakes with flowers. When I say that moment bruised HUDA’s ego…. She recently brought it up on her latest appearance on the “Call Her Daddy” podcast and while in the villa she said it made her feel like “a side hoe”. Chelley’s plate looked better, more thoughtful and HUDA could feel it. LADIES: This is why you NEVER subject yourself to being a man‘s second choice. Instead of handling that moment with grace, she internalized it, stewed in jealousy, and let it fuel more passive-aggressive behavior…..

“IT’S JUST A CHALLENGE”

I’m actually glad HUDA came home and started doing podcast appearances, because all she’s done is further prove my point.

Let’s go back to the “Heart Race” challenge. She said it was “just a challenge” but let’s be real, it was about “the big payback”. When she saw Chris giving Chelley more attention, and instead of handling it with maturity, she tried to hurt her. Intentionally. And what’s crazy is… America didn’t see it that way. Because the minute a Black woman speaks up for herself, sets a boundary, or calls someone out on their bullsh*t suddenly it’s: “She’s aggressive.” “She’s a mean girl.” We’ve heard it before. We know that script. And yes, Chelley and Ace weren’t officially closed off. But let’s use common sense here. If Chris who’s only been around them for a few days and still recognized their bond was deeper, how couldn’t you see that, friend?

You chose not to see it because it didn’t serve your narrative.

THE QUEEN OF NO BOUNDARIES.

After the stunt HUDA pulled during the Heart Race challenge, she saw Chelley was upset and instead of giving her space, she invaded it. She touched her, drew more attention to the moment, and made an already emotional situation even heavier. She knew she was in the wrong and tried to soften her image in the aftermath. That’s called “perform care” “redirect attention”. But it wasn’t about Chelley’s feelings it was about damage control. Later on she asked Chelley to chat, Chelley initially said yes, but seconds later, she rightfully changed her mind. She realized she wasn’t in the right space to speak from a grounded place and that’s what you call emotional maturity TIMES magazine…..

But what did HUDA do? She took offense. As if she was owed immediate access to Chelley’s emotions. As if Chelley didn’t have the right to take time to process everything. And that’s the pattern. She did the exact same thing with Jeremiah. She dropped something heavy on him and instead of giving him space to process, she made it about her. Her feelings, her needs, her timeline.

For anyone who’s ever felt entitled to someone’s space after hurting them YOU don’t get to time someone else’s emotions about you. You don’t get to hurt someone and expect them to bounce back when you’re ready. Real friends don’t cause harm and then play the victim when you ask for space to breathe.

WE GOT A MATCH!

Since leaving the villa, Chris’s ex spoke out about his behaviors during their relationship and let’s just say it sounds like HUDA and Chris had a lot more in common than we thought.

But in the villa here’s what I liked about Chris: he wasn’t like Jeremiah. He didn’t let her talk over him or cut him off mid-sentence. He didn’t reward her disrespect. And when he stood up for himself? She couldn’t handle it. HUDA thought she could run the same playbook but Chris not being on all fours shook her. She didn’t want anything more with Chris in the end other than “friendship”not because of growth but because she realized she failed at doing what she does best: MANIPULATING MEN.

I’M NOT GOING TO CARRY YOU.”-CHRIS

When Chris told HUDA, “I’m not going to carry you,” it was a moment that needed to be said and more importantly, digested. Because whether people want to admit it or not, HUDA HASN’T CARRIED HERSELF THIS ENTIRE SEASON. From the islanders, to the public, and even the production team have been doing the heavy lifting for her. She’s deflected. Avoided accountability. Rewritten narratives. And while everyone else was dealing with the emotional fallout of her choices, HUDA coasted protected by perception and propped up by SYMPATHY.

So when Chris said those words “I’m not going to carry you” it hit deeper than just the moment. It was symbolic. For once, HUDA had to stand on her own two feet. No more emotional leaning. No more hiding behind “I’m a mother.” No more expecting others to process for her or protect her image.Chris might’ve caught a few side-eyes for making her walk, but honestly? That walk was overdue. Because sooner or later, the weight of who you pretend to be becomes too heavy for other people to hold.

HUDA’s time in the villa wasn’t just messy it was revealing. She came in wanting a connection (so she said..), but what she really sought was CONTROL of narrative, of perception, of outcomes. From using motherhood as emotional leverage, to weaponizing vulnerability, to expecting immediate forgiveness on her timeline, oh and the pancakes fiasco..we saw a pattern rooted in IMAGE over INTEGRITY.

REAL GROWTH doesn’t happen when people tiptoe around your feelings. It happens when you’re finally forced to sit with the discomfort of your own reflection. And for the first time when Chris said, “I’m not going to carry you” HUDA had to do just that. Because at the end of the day, you can’t build meaningful bonds while sidestepping accountability. And you can’t walk into love if you’re not even willing to stand on your own two feet.

I’m closing this with an iconic message, because this is what it all comes down to:

“If you can’t love yourself, how the hell are you gonna love somebody else?” – RuPaul